The Perils of Comparison

In today’s hyper-connected world, where social media dominates our daily lives, the dangers of comparison loom larger than ever. While it's natural to assess ourselves in relation to others, this constant measuring up can have significant negative consequences on our mental & emotional health, our relationships and our lives in general.

Comparison often leads to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. Scrolling through carefully curated social media feeds, we see the highlight reels of others' lives, and it's easy to forget that these are just snapshots, not the full picture. Constantly comparing ourselves to these idealized versions can be destructive, as we perceive ourselves as falling short – ‘not enough’ of some made up measure of something.

Furthermore, comparison can foster unhealthy competition and envy. Instead of celebrating the success of others, we may feel resentment, which erodes relationships and creates a toxic atmosphere. This culture of comparison also hampers our ability to enjoy our own achievements and experiences, as they are constantly overshadowed by the perceived successes of others.

The dangers of comparison extend beyond the individual level to societal implications. It can perpetuate unrealistic beauty standards, fuel consumerism, and contribute to a never-ending pursuit of material wealth and status.

Here are a couple of practices you can begin to integrate into your life to dilute the habit of comparison:

1. Practice gratitude: Focus on your strengths

2. Celebrate your winds

3. Learn to look at where you can improve your choices, your actions, your knowledge your health etc.

4. Have clear boundaries around what does and doesn’t work for you.

5. Practice ‘social media fasting’

Each of us are unique. There are nuances, perspectives and quirks that only you will ever bring into the world. Embrace who you are, not who you are not. Oscar Wilde famously said, “Be yourself because everyone else is taken”.

In combating the perils of comparison, we must remember that everyone's journey is unique (refer ‘Design of Human’ above). In kinesiology we call it bio-individuality. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, let's focus on personal growth, self-compassion, celebration of our own personal wins and building authentic connections.

Instead of comparing ourselves to others, let's focus on our own strengths, personal growth, self-compassion, and building authentic connections. By doing so, we can protect our mental health, enhance the joy of our own personal journey and foster a more supportive and empathetic society and world….and let’s admit, that would be a great thing.